Somatic Gateway · The Survivor's Toolkit

Finally — a map for
how to actually heal.

90+ somatic healing cards across five phases of recovery from narcissistic abuse and coercive control.

There is so much information about what narcissistic abuse is. Almost nothing on how to heal from it. Nobody tells you that healing has predictable stages — or that there are specific skills for each one. This deck is the map nobody gave you. A skill for every phase. A card for every moment of the journey.

90+

TOOL CARDS

5

HEALING PHASES

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TIMES TO RETURN

"Your nervous system isn't broken. It's doing exactly what it learned to do — and there are specific skills built for each stage of what comes next."

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Beautiful tools for the hardest moments.

Every card has a front — for the moment you're in — and a back — for the understanding you need. Here's a look inside.

THE MAP NOBODY GAVE YOU

Healing from narcissistic abuse has predictable stages.

And specific skills for each one.

There is a tremendous amount of information out there about what narcissistic abuse is — the patterns, the tactics, the psychology. What almost nobody talks about is how to actually heal from it.

Nobody tells you that healing moves through recognisable phases. That your nervous system is not broken — it is responding exactly as it was trained to respond, and there are specific somatic tools that help it find its way back. That there is a forward direction, and that you are already on it.

"The Survivor's Toolkit is not another explanation of what happened to you. It is a roadmap for what comes next — phase by phase, skill by skill, one card at a time."

90+ cards across five phases of healing. Every card holds one skill — a practice, a reframe, or a nervous system tool built specifically for where you are in that phase. The front names the moment. The back gives you the clinical understanding and the steps to move through it.

THE FIVE PHASES

Healing has a shape. Here it is.

Recovery from narcissistic abuse moves through five recognisable phases — each with its own terrain, its own challenges, and its own specific set of skills. This is the roadmap. You are already somewhere on it.

01

See & Asses

"Something in you already knows."

21 CARDS

Naming the harm · Gaslighting · Coercive control · The trauma bond · DARVO · Identity erosion · Trusting your perception · Financial Abuse · Gaslighting · Seeing the Pattern · Trusting Your Perception · Your Inner Compass · Rumniation

02

Discern & Act

"Clarity is not a destination. It's a direction."

20 CARDS

Clarity · The responsibility split · Cost of Staying · Detaching · The stranger standard · Choosing yourself · Releasing the fantasy · Grey rock · No Contact/Low Contact

03

Protect & Stabilize

"You only have to do the next small thing."

19 CARDS

Creating a Safe Space · Resourcing · Nourishing Your Body · Daily Anchor Practice · Orienting · Grounding · Self Holding· Body Scan · Sleep · Post-contact reset · Safe support · Financial ground

04

Process & Heal

"Your body holds what your mind couldn't."

20 CARDS

Working with Trauma · Nervous system · Self-Compassion · Activation · Freeze · Titration · Pendulation · Stress Cycles · Anger · Grief · Shame · Witnessing · Inner Child · Forgiving Self · Completing the narrative

05

The Spiral Path

"You are not starting over. You are going deeper."

21 CARDS

Joy · Pleasure · Voice · Healthy love · Setting standards · Integration · The cycle ends with you · Passing it forward · Trusting Again · Becoming · Parenting from Wholeness

04

Process & Heal

"Your body holds what your mind couldn't."

19 CARDS

Activation · Freeze/shutdown · Titration · Pendulation · Grief · Shame · Inner child · Reparenting · Completing the narrative

HOW TO USE IT

Start where you are.
The map works from any point.

01

Orient yourself on the map

Read the five phase descriptions and find the one that names where you are right now. Knowing where you are on the map is the first skill of recovery. You can begin from any phase — the map works from any point.

02

Reach for the skill you need

Each card is a specific skill for a specific moment in that phase. Find the card whose title names where you are. The front is for the moment. The back gives you the clinical understanding and the body-based steps to move through it.

03

Return as many times as you need

Healing moves in a spiral. You will return to earlier phases as you go deeper — and each return brings more capacity than the last. The map will be here every time you come back to it.

CHOOSE YOUR ENTRY POINT

Start where you are.

Everything leads forward.

Begin with what you need now. Every product is designed so you can always take the next step when you're ready.

FREE

Phase 1 —

See & Assess

FREE

"Something in you already knows." For when you're still naming what's been happening — and beginning to trust what you see.

Digital PDF · Instant access

  • 18 tool cards + phase header

  • Naming the harm, coercive control, the trauma bond, DARVO, gaslighting & more

  • Front & back — moment + understanding

  • Printable PDF or use on your phone

Complete Collection · All 5 Phases

The Complete Survivor's Toolkit

Every phase. Every skill. A card for every moment of the actual work — from the first moment of naming, all the way through to integration and becoming.

$37

Digital PDF · Instant access

  • All 90+ tool cards across 5 phases

  • Every card. Every phase. One continuous path.

  • 7 supporting cards including cover + instruction cards

  • Printable PDF or digital · Use however helps

The woman behind this work

I had the degree. I knew the diagnosis. I still didn't see it — and nobody gave me a map for what came after.

I'm Jess — licensed counsellor, certified somatic coach, and survivor. I earned my counselling degree in 2003. I knew what narcissistic personality disorder was. I could have written the diagnostic criteria from memory. And I still could not see it in my own marriage.

When I finally started to heal, I found what most survivors find: there is an enormous amount of information about what narcissistic abuse is. Almost nothing on how to actually heal from it. No roadmap. No sequence. No one telling you that healing has predictable stages — or that your nervous system is not broken, it just needs specific tools at each stage of the journey.

"I built the Toolkit to be the map I needed and couldn't find. The skills are real. The phases are real. The path forward is real — and it's in your hands."

Every card in this deck was written from clinical training, somatic practice, and lived experience. I needed every single one of them at some point in my own recovery.

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This deck was built for you.

Every card in this deck was written from clinical training, somatic practice, and the lived experience of someone who needed every single one of them at some point in her own recovery. The phases are real. The skills work. And if you reach for this deck and it doesn't meet you where you are — reach out. Your healing matters more than the sale.

You survived.

Now it's time to come home to yourself.

Healing has a shape. You are already somewhere on the map. The Toolkit gives you the skills for wherever that is — and for everywhere it takes you next.

FROM THOSE WHO HAVE WALKED THIS PATH

They were exactly
where you are.

For the first time, I had words for what was happening in my body — not just what had been done to me. That distinction changed everything.

-Ava, Toolkit Purchaser

I'd done three years of therapy and still felt stuck. One week with the Toolkit and something finally shifted. The body-based framing was what I had been missing.

— Jenn, Survivor of 10 years of Narcissistic Abuse

The card that explained the trauma bond was the first time I stopped hating myself for still missing him. I didn't know that was neurobiological. Nobody told me that.

— Anna, Survivor of 20+ years of Narcissistic Abuse

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